by Debra | Apr 13, 2026
Taking a deeper look at Spirituality, beyond belief and identity.
Spirituality has evolved and expanded over time, and today it can mean very different things to different people.
For some, spirituality is rooted in a belief in God through religion or spiritual tradition. For others, spirituality has little to do with organized religion and more to do with personal experience—connecting inward through meditation, prayer, time in nature, or quiet reflection.
While the paths may look different, many people are searching for the same thing: meaning, connection, and a sense of peace.
When “Spiritual” Doesn’t Look Like Love
I live in a community that proudly identifies as very spiritual. Yet when I observe in others and myself behaviors rooted in judgment, anger, and a lack of compassion, I find myself questioning what spirituality truly means.
If spirituality is genuine, shouldn’t it show up in how we treat one another?
To me, spirituality isn’t about appearances, labels, or spiritual language. It’s about awareness—a moment-by-moment practice of waking up to love, truth, and God.
Spirituality as Inner Responsibility
True spirituality begins when we stop blaming others for how we feel or buying into the stories the Ego tells us to keep us feeling separate.
When something triggers me, I’ve learned that it’s not actually about the situation or other person. It’s an invitation to look inward. Instead of projecting fear through judgment or anger, spirituality asks us to pause and become curious about the emotions rising within us.
This inner work—feeling instead of reacting—is where healing happens.
The situation that triggers me isn’t happening to me. It’s happening for me.
Every trigger is an opportunity to heal fear and choose love.
Fear Blocks Love and Trust
When we move into fear, love cannot be present. And when love is absent, God cannot be present either.
Fear disconnects us from trust. It pulls us out of faith and into control, blame, and resistance. In those moments, our belief that life is unfolding exactly as it should disappears.
Spirituality, however, invites us to remember a deeper truth: growth often arrives through discomfort.
Spirituality isn’t about never getting triggered. It’s about what we do when we are.
Do we react, judge, and blame?
Or do we slow down, turn inward, and respond with compassion?
Each moment gives us a choice—fear or love, reaction or awareness. That choice, made again and again, is where spirituality truly lives.
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by Debra | Oct 12, 2015
Spirituality looks different for everyone. Some people will describe their spirituality in reference to their religion or their faith. Some people say it’s just about being a good person and treating people the way you would want to be treated. Others may believe it’s about the law of attraction. There are so many ways we can view our spirituality. It really is all about what is working for you.
For me my spirituality is a combination of my spiritual and psychological practice.
As long as I am doing both, I continue to develop and evolve.
Is your form of spirituality working for you?
My spiritual practice involves me waking up in the morning and connecting to my Higher Power and letting my Higher Power know I am up for whatever the universe is going to bring on for my growth. Sometimes a scary phrase is, “Bring it on, Universe!” If I truly want to keep evolving on my spiritual path, I have to embrace everything that the universe brings me, knowing it’s for my higher learning. Then through out the day I connect with Source to make sure I’m not on autopilot. At the close of my day I ask my Higher Power how I did. Did I take over when I could have let go? Was I unkind because I was in my little girl/ego? Was I asleep all day forgetting my purpose in life? I take an inventory of my day and myself.
In my psychological practice I address every trigger, knowing it is there to help me heal and shift my old beliefs. I take it off of the person or thing that triggers me and totally own it, bringing it back to me. If I am practicing consciousness both spiritually and psychologically, I can stay awake and behave in a way that can heal not only my wounds but all sentient beings.
My passion and purpose in life is to show up for people at a high level. If I am not doing my work, I won’t be able to. So, I do my practice for myself and ultimately the world.
I want to show up for myself, my family, my friends, and everyone that I come in contact with. I also want to shift my old beliefs knowing I am shifting them in the world.
by Debra | Apr 17, 2014
I used to be the gal who said, “Put the house on my back. I can carry it.”
I lost my mother when I was 26-years-old, my children were 4 and 5 years old, and I went into survival mode. I am a doer; I get things done, sometimes at any cost. The problem with operating this way is the price my health and nervous system paid.
Today, I know better, or I thought I did. That get- it- done- fast, do- it- right way of being crept back in my life into my meditation and processing. I noticed that I was being a bit aggressive with my practice and I was experiencing some anxiety. The funny thing is that I do know better. I know the best way to meditate and process through things in my life are through having compassion and slowing things down. This reminded me of how easy it is to revert back into old patterns and habits. It took a couple of days for me to realize this because I thought that it was a good thing to be so disciplined with my practice. Discipline is one thing, but cracking the whip is quite the other.
So, I had to look at what was coming up for me. What fear was making me want to move through my process fast and become enlightened now? Checking in with my old belief system, I noticed that it was tapping into the one where I always feel like I’m doing something wrong. After recognizing the feelings as anxiety and identifying this old belief, I was able to be with it and eventually let it go.
Sitting with these feelings of anxiety was not easy. I wanted to get busy, call a friend, do anything to distract me from the feelings I was having. But I made myself stay and feel them, and they did pass. It’s so important to realize how automatic our old beliefs slip back in, and how, if we are asleep, we may not even recognize how unconscious we were.
This is why it is so important to slow things down and pay attention; pay attention to what we are feeling, how we are behaving, and how fast we are moving. Throughout the day, stop yourself and pause and take 3 big, deep breaths, and be still. Then go about your day. Do this many times to connect with yourself and slow things down.
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by Debra | Apr 1, 2014
How do we stay out of the drama of life and take that drama and move into a place of higher conscious learning? First what is drama? Drama is conceived through getting wrapped up in a situation that happens instead of looking at why it is happening. Let’s say someone treats me with disrespect. If I lament about the situation and say things like, “I can’t believe she did that to me, she is such a nut job, what is wrong with her, she must be crazy,” or I keep the thoughts circling in my head, I am stuck in the drama of the situation. If I am stuck in the drama, I miss the higher learning.
The higher learning looks more like looking at what you have to learn from it, your wound around it and your old belief system attached to it. Maybe when you were younger your family didn’t respect your rights and therefore when it happens in your adult life, it triggers you. Then you proceed to do your work around healing that wound and not buying into the old belief system. This opportunity will be completely lost if you stay in the drama of the event.
Tips To Stay Out Of The Drama
1. Recognize your triggers. Anytime you are not at peace, you are triggered.
2. Step out of the trigger and connect it to your wound as a child.
3. Look at your old belief around the wound.
4. Don’t buy into the old belief, know it’s a lie.
5. Create a new belief and sink into it’s truth.
It is going to be impossible to create happiness and peace if you are not aware of your childhood wounds, your old beliefs, and how they make you react to certain situations. They key is getting to know yourself in a much deeper way. Look at how your life is showing up for you and you can get a good picture of how strong your old beliefs are. They only way to shift an old belief is to know where it came from and not to buy into it.
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by Debra | Feb 22, 2014
What does living a conscious life mean exactly?
It means not sleeping on the job! It mean being awake! Going through your day with awareness, not being on autopilot. The majority of people on this planet are sleep walking and don’t know it. They get up in the morning, drag themselves to the coffee machine, take a shower, go to work, work, come home, fix dinner, watch a little TV, go to bed exhausted. Get up a repeat the same mundane experience over and over.
I try to live my life as consciously as possible by staying awake to what is going on in my day. I get up in the morning and greet my day and either hike in nature or sit and at least get a 5 minute meditation in. When I hike I go to a certain point on the hike and say my gratitudes and intentions for the day. This really sets the tone for paying attention to how my day unfolds. Meditation does the same thing. It grounds me in walking through my day awake. When I get to my office, down the hall, I look at my day and see what it has in store for me and how I might be able to affect the people in my day positively. Now, sometimes during the day I find myself going on autopilot, it’s natural, although I try to wake myself as soon as possible.
Another thing that happens to get in my way of living consciously is all the stimulation the world has to offer. My phone, emails, internet, my mind, everyday daily activities. It’s important to bring ourselves back to the present and look at what is important to us. It’s a daily practice to look at how you want to live your life and take the action to do it.
A few questions to ask yourself would be:
1. Are you on Autopilot?
2. Are you doing what you love in your career?
3. Are you spending quality time with the ones you love?
4. Are you overweight and eating for comfort or out of habit?
5. Are you bored with your life?
6. Are you walking through your life not knowing what you want out of it?
7. Are you stuck in the drama of your life instead of the learning?
If you have answered yes to any of these questions, it might be time to WAKE UP!
I heard a great story about a man who knocks on his son’s door. “Jamie,” he says, “wake up!” Jamie answers, ” I don’t want to get up, Papa.” The father shouts, “Get up, you have to go to school.” Jamie says “I don’t want to go to school.” “Why not?” ask the father. “Three reasons,” says Jamie. “First, because it’s so dull; second the kids tease me; and third, I hate school.” And the father says, “Well, I am going to give you three reasons why you must go to school. First because it’s your duty; second, because you are forty-five years old, and third, because you are the headmaster,” Wake up, wake up! You’ve grown up. Your to big to be asleep.
It’s time to wake up, your to old to be asleep. if you need help waking up, looking at your life and how it’s not working for you, let’s talk about how you can be more conscious and live your life with more passion and zest.
